Better Sex From Good Money Management for the New Year

I was thumbing through one of my old magazines as I was cleaning and getting ready for the New Year and I stumbled upon this chart.  Which made me think of how it could help improve a woman's sex life.


[I know.] You must be thinking- 'Huh? How the hell can this chart help improve MY sex life?'

Well, have you ever had sex and your mind wanders to things you need to take care of, like a bill that needs to be paid?
Research has shown that [money] financial problems is a 'stresser' in almost any relationship, whether the relationship is with someone you're just dating or your spouse.  Financial problems can affect your sex drive and the growth of your relationship.

As women we are hardwired to constantly think ahead (and connect or fix everything unlike our male predatory and compartmentalizing counter parts) and rarely do we live in the sexual moment for long (we easily get distracted).  Once the distraction comes, then the disconnect from your partner happens.  This, most times, can be interpreted as you being disinterested during sex, which potentially causes conflict is an otherwise good, in the broad scope of things, relationship.

You know a clear mind lends itself to better sex and better orgasms. With one less thing to worry about when you lay down to make love with your partner,  the possibilities of a wonderful (s)experience increases.

So use this chart as a guideline to help you put your finances in the right order and on the right track (alter as needed) for the New Year.  This way you won't have to worry about finances as much in 2011, especially during sex.

Cheers to you and a Happy New Year filled with great-Mind-Blowing-Sex and good money management!

-The Chart was taken from Essence Magazine January '08 Issue.

-The YummyGirl '10

10 Steps to finding your Alter Sex Ego (AKA. A.S.E.)

I have an Alter Sex Ego. Her name is Tasha.  I think that every woman should have one and if she doesn't then it's time to get one.








What is an Alter Sex Ego (A.S.E)? (Pronounced Ace)
Don’t mix up 'Role Playing' with an Alter Sex Ego (ASE). 

• Your Alter Sex Ego allows you to be uninhibited. Your ASE does everything you desire to do sexually, in your subconscious, but are afraid to do in your conscious mind state. 
• Sexual Role Playing is a totally superficial sexual act.  It is tangible to a character, image or action (i.e. A Movie Star, Cat woman, Naughty Nurse, Damsel in Distress). Role playing doesn’t necessarily have your personality traits.  

Using your ASE helps to bring sexual acts to a higher level.  Your ASE also helps put a spark and can cause a fire in a rather boring (sexual) relationship. Your ASE makes this easy because she is an extension of who you really are; there's no faking You. Frequent use of your ASE will also help to increase your pleasure, creativity and sex drive.

If you have an ASE, that’s fabulous! Otherwise, below is a trick I used to reveal my ASE.  Give it a try and reveal yours.

10 Steps to finding your A.S.E (Alter Sex Ego)
(You will need a hand mirror)

1. Set the mood- Dim the lights. Play some soft sexy music. Use some aroma therapy. Pop a bottle of Moscato D' Asti or your favorite sexy drink etc. 
2. Get in the Mood-Pull out all the sexy ‘whatevers’ you have that gets you in the mood. Dance with yourself (that's right not BY yourself. There is a big difference). Making sexy movements of your body to music will get the blood, heart and sex drive going. 
3. Get Comfy- Find a comfy seat or get in a comfy position. Make sure to have your mirror with you. Make sure to hold it away from you so as NOT to see your reflection.
4. Breathe- Close your eyes and take long slow deep breaths. Focus on your breathing for a while to help clear you mind and think of nothing but how sexy you are to yourself and your man. (Continue with this type of breathing throughout the exercise.) 
5. Relax. 
6. Reminisce on the last phenomenal sex episode you had where you blew your partners mind (it doesn't have to be your current partner) and linger in that thought.
7. Think about teasing your current partner- Imagine what you would do to your current partner during foreplay to make his toes curl or cry from the sheer pleasure of you teasing and pleasing him. Think of how you would touch him with your mouth and hands.  Imagine him laying there, at your mercy afraid of how good the pleasure is.  Think of him as horny and helpless, waiting for your next sexual move on him. Think of him needing and wanting you.  Feel him begging, crying and whimpering helplessly but yearning for you sexually. 
8. Embrace your Horny-ness- These thoughts should have you feeling like the sexiest woman in his world right now.  Savor these thoughts and now imagine that he will react the same way, at your slightest touch, when you tease and please him later. (Make sure your eyes remain closed and you continue with the deep and slow breathing.)
9. Ask yourself, What would you do next to really ‘blow his mind’? Relish every detail. Calculate and delight in every touch. Get hot from how sexy you are and how good you know you will make him feel.  (Don’t be Shy. Nobody knows what you're doing but you, so don't hold back.) Now, at the very second just before you're about to make that 'move' and do that ‘special thing’ you imagined, that will make him go beyond crazy, 
10. Name Your A.S.E.- Slowly raising the mirror to your face and then open your eyes.  Look into the mirror at your reflection and say the very FIRST name that comes to you.  

That is the name of your ASE! Say hello to her and become acquainted. Summon her on the nights when you need that extra edge, which is almost every time for me. Matter of fact, since she is there, try her out on your man right now! 
Enjoy!








BTW,  I whip my ASE out only when I am going to give my man mind blowing head. I think my Ex misses Tasha more than he does me.


YummyGirl '10

The Sexiest Video of all Time!

The video that inspired the YummyMan cover and the ebook.  How sexy is this?! No matter how old this video is,  um-um-um, it is still one of the sexiest of the time.

YummyGirl '10

Realtionships Can Be So Sexy

I can't help but to wonder how good the sex between these 'couples' are.   hmm....And how is it that I didn't know that Common and Serena are couple.