5 Rules For A Single Woman Dating Any Man With A Young Daughter(s)

As a woman dating,  knowing there is a love waiting for me and having to go through the ordeal of kissing a lot of frogs before my prince arrives, I have been exposed to a lot of different things. The most recent, Men and their pre-teen daughters.  I have come to realize that it is easier to date a man with a pre-teen son than a man with a pre-teen daughter.

The last 3 men that I have dated have young pre-teen daughters and it appears that they don’t know how to manage their time between the now 3-4 ladies in their lives (mother, baby mama, the woman they are dating and daughter).  This is my advice to any woman who is dating any man with a young daughter.  Listen carefully and it will make your dating life A LOT easier.

If he keeps putting you off and shuts down when his child is around, don’t even waste your time. RULE #1- RUN.  R-U-N.  Any man that is interested in you will MAKE time regardless of the situation and share time with you. How much time is subjective.  But ultimately if you feel like you are being neglected for that daughter and he doesn’t include you (because that child is going nowhere and will ALWAYS be his child) head for the hills,  sooner rather than later.

Here is why.

  

For a man, if you fight for time or are not compassionate about what unexpected dilemmas happen with raising a girl child, you will be seen in an unfriendly light (they forget that you were once a girl as well, and probably in the same situation, spending single dad time).  IT will be an uphill battle and you probably wont win. Or, you will be on a slippery down hill slope where you can’t stop till you crash at the bottom.  

SO, cut your losses early because this is not a battle you can win without probably being on the verge of death yourself.  What has to happen in hopes of making life easier for the next generation however, is that mothers need to start training their sons and fathers need to start training their daughters, from when they are children on the right way to be in those kinds relationships (by example). 

I am a product of a broken home and I was taught to be very independent by my mom but on the flip side my brothers were catered to in some respects so I have seen it and experienced all the scenarios (my brothers with their daughters, my father with me and my mother with my brothers and my mother with me).  And in my adult life, I have seen a few of these scenarios with a few, not all, of my friends which has given me enough insight for me to make a correlation.  

Parents, you may hate me for this but, THIS is what I have realized.

Where are all the single men?

I first realized it just recently now that I am ready to be in a relationship and to start dating again- so, I asked the question.
Then,  I was with my girlfriends a few weeks ago talking about love, life and relationships and one of my girlfriends asked the question.  
And then last week, after yoga class, my instructor asked the same question.
mind you, my instructor is gorgeous.
It seems like most woman I know keep asking the same question.

Where are the men at?

When my girlfriend said to me that she wants to get married and she's been tired of "the club", I understood what she meant.    And the socialite in me just rattled off a couple of ideas of places to find men that were not in the club.  I told her, "Date" your city.  This was sound advice one of my male friend gave me in relations to finding new male friends and potential and worthy gentlemen callers.  I still have to put that plan into action one day soon.
I also told her, become a mentor. Do community service.  Join a group. Go to a museum. Join a sports team. Work out. etc.  Tell your friends and let it be known EXACTLY what you are looking for... and on and on I went.

Everyday Sex Toys

 OK, say you wanna "Spice It Up" in the bedroom tonight and you want to use some sex toys; new sex toys.  But, because you are not a nympho or shop in the sex shops, like you do Sephora,  your sex chest is very limited.  Fear not!  There is still hope! You can find many sex toy in your home to use on your mate tonight and it won't cost you a single penny.

Check out these items that you can find in most homes and use them tonight!

• Turkey Baster- Use it to drip your fave liquids on his skin, erogenous zones like his nipples, and his privates. Use from cold or hot water to sexy chocolate or  Nutella you name it! Or even use plain 'ol air.
• Swifter Duster- Use it like you would a feather,  all over his body, to tantalize and wake up his skin.
• Spatula- To 'Spanking That Ass', metal or plastic. But use plastic, it is more forgiving.
• Multi- Jet removable Shower Head- (more so for the woman's pleasure)  Find the right water pressure/jet stream and pleasure yourself. [bats eyes]
• Clothing- Like his tie, to constrict him, if he likes it, use for asphyxiation, Soft bondage or as a make shift "O-ring". Or as the good old fashion blind fold.  Or try a thin sock- over that P-ness and message. He'll go crazy wanting to feel your raw skin on skin touch.
• Food/fruits in your fridge- whip cream, chocolate, butter, ice, ice cream, fruit etc. Ice- in small chips (you'll need leather gloves to handle) and the list goes on and on. Make him a human love/sex sandwich. [wink-wink]
• Electric Shaver- (the small one for women), for vibration purposes. Use the tail end.  Place it at the base of his P-ness between his testicles.
• Hands and Feet- The best sex toys or sex accessory in the world! Great for message and stimulation.
• Mouth- Can be used for the second best type of sex there is.

I wonder what other toys there may be in the home? 

Next Stop, Cougar Town!

Well I must say this, the young men are loving me. I have, in the past, been approached by a "young buck" every now and then, but now it seems more the norm than an abnormality.

Where did my twenties go? Where are the days when it was the older men that approached me at age 25. Now I find myself at a point in my life where I'm too old for dating a man in my age range (they want the younger girl) but I am perfect for a young man that needs to get more experience and maturity. 

At first I used to be flattered thinking that maybe it's because I look young but as I become wiser and since I have spoken with a few men I have realized that these young bucks know I am older! Go figure! So, in essence I'm the old chick! I am the older woman who is perfect for teaching the children the ropes. 

Should I be insulted or take it all in stride? And it's not like these fellows are 3-4 years my junior, I'm talking 7-10 years my junior! Holly crap, I thought when I started to do the math. That's like a freshman in college, dating a senior in elementary school! Definitely not sexy. I cringe. And yes I know that the older you get the less significant a few years are but I'm not that old-yet.