Better Sex From Good Money Management for the New Year

I was thumbing through one of my old magazines as I was cleaning and getting ready for the New Year and I stumbled upon this chart.  Which made me think of how it could help improve a woman's sex life.


[I know.] You must be thinking- 'Huh? How the hell can this chart help improve MY sex life?'

Well, have you ever had sex and your mind wanders to things you need to take care of, like a bill that needs to be paid?
Research has shown that [money] financial problems is a 'stresser' in almost any relationship, whether the relationship is with someone you're just dating or your spouse.  Financial problems can affect your sex drive and the growth of your relationship.

As women we are hardwired to constantly think ahead (and connect or fix everything unlike our male predatory and compartmentalizing counter parts) and rarely do we live in the sexual moment for long (we easily get distracted).  Once the distraction comes, then the disconnect from your partner happens.  This, most times, can be interpreted as you being disinterested during sex, which potentially causes conflict is an otherwise good, in the broad scope of things, relationship.

You know a clear mind lends itself to better sex and better orgasms. With one less thing to worry about when you lay down to make love with your partner,  the possibilities of a wonderful (s)experience increases.

So use this chart as a guideline to help you put your finances in the right order and on the right track (alter as needed) for the New Year.  This way you won't have to worry about finances as much in 2011, especially during sex.

Cheers to you and a Happy New Year filled with great-Mind-Blowing-Sex and good money management!

-The Chart was taken from Essence Magazine January '08 Issue.

-The YummyGirl '10

10 Steps to finding your Alter Sex Ego (AKA. A.S.E.)

I have an Alter Sex Ego. Her name is Tasha.  I think that every woman should have one and if she doesn't then it's time to get one.








What is an Alter Sex Ego (A.S.E)? (Pronounced Ace)
Don’t mix up 'Role Playing' with an Alter Sex Ego (ASE). 

• Your Alter Sex Ego allows you to be uninhibited. Your ASE does everything you desire to do sexually, in your subconscious, but are afraid to do in your conscious mind state. 
• Sexual Role Playing is a totally superficial sexual act.  It is tangible to a character, image or action (i.e. A Movie Star, Cat woman, Naughty Nurse, Damsel in Distress). Role playing doesn’t necessarily have your personality traits.  

Using your ASE helps to bring sexual acts to a higher level.  Your ASE also helps put a spark and can cause a fire in a rather boring (sexual) relationship. Your ASE makes this easy because she is an extension of who you really are; there's no faking You. Frequent use of your ASE will also help to increase your pleasure, creativity and sex drive.

If you have an ASE, that’s fabulous! Otherwise, below is a trick I used to reveal my ASE.  Give it a try and reveal yours.

10 Steps to finding your A.S.E (Alter Sex Ego)
(You will need a hand mirror)

1. Set the mood- Dim the lights. Play some soft sexy music. Use some aroma therapy. Pop a bottle of Moscato D' Asti or your favorite sexy drink etc. 
2. Get in the Mood-Pull out all the sexy ‘whatevers’ you have that gets you in the mood. Dance with yourself (that's right not BY yourself. There is a big difference). Making sexy movements of your body to music will get the blood, heart and sex drive going. 
3. Get Comfy- Find a comfy seat or get in a comfy position. Make sure to have your mirror with you. Make sure to hold it away from you so as NOT to see your reflection.
4. Breathe- Close your eyes and take long slow deep breaths. Focus on your breathing for a while to help clear you mind and think of nothing but how sexy you are to yourself and your man. (Continue with this type of breathing throughout the exercise.) 
5. Relax. 
6. Reminisce on the last phenomenal sex episode you had where you blew your partners mind (it doesn't have to be your current partner) and linger in that thought.
7. Think about teasing your current partner- Imagine what you would do to your current partner during foreplay to make his toes curl or cry from the sheer pleasure of you teasing and pleasing him. Think of how you would touch him with your mouth and hands.  Imagine him laying there, at your mercy afraid of how good the pleasure is.  Think of him as horny and helpless, waiting for your next sexual move on him. Think of him needing and wanting you.  Feel him begging, crying and whimpering helplessly but yearning for you sexually. 
8. Embrace your Horny-ness- These thoughts should have you feeling like the sexiest woman in his world right now.  Savor these thoughts and now imagine that he will react the same way, at your slightest touch, when you tease and please him later. (Make sure your eyes remain closed and you continue with the deep and slow breathing.)
9. Ask yourself, What would you do next to really ‘blow his mind’? Relish every detail. Calculate and delight in every touch. Get hot from how sexy you are and how good you know you will make him feel.  (Don’t be Shy. Nobody knows what you're doing but you, so don't hold back.) Now, at the very second just before you're about to make that 'move' and do that ‘special thing’ you imagined, that will make him go beyond crazy, 
10. Name Your A.S.E.- Slowly raising the mirror to your face and then open your eyes.  Look into the mirror at your reflection and say the very FIRST name that comes to you.  

That is the name of your ASE! Say hello to her and become acquainted. Summon her on the nights when you need that extra edge, which is almost every time for me. Matter of fact, since she is there, try her out on your man right now! 
Enjoy!








BTW,  I whip my ASE out only when I am going to give my man mind blowing head. I think my Ex misses Tasha more than he does me.


YummyGirl '10

The Sexiest Video of all Time!

The video that inspired the YummyMan cover and the ebook.  How sexy is this?! No matter how old this video is,  um-um-um, it is still one of the sexiest of the time.

YummyGirl '10

Realtionships Can Be So Sexy

I can't help but to wonder how good the sex between these 'couples' are.   hmm....And how is it that I didn't know that Common and Serena are couple.

yOga and the Big O(rgasm)

I keep hearing that people who practice yoga have great sex and Yoga is something one should practice while in pursuit of the big O(rgasm).  

Why is that? Well I found out that flexibility is the key and Yoga helps to make you more flexible.  Your love muscles (which include your hips, butt, thighs and abdominal muscles, plus your, internal sexual muscles and organs) need to be flexible.  Increased flexibility increases blood flow to your sexual region.  This flexibility helps to make for more pleasurable sex.  It also makes it easier to achieve the Big O(rgasm).  Yay Yoga!

I am not a Yogi but I figure anything that will help to make sex great is something that I want to learn more about or practice.  So, I am thinking of doing the series of Yoga moves called Sun Salutation.  The Sun Salutation is easy to practice, not to mention, I read that the Sun Salutation, when combined with cued breathing,  works all major muscle groups and it also increases circulation and invigorates the love muscles.  Bingo! That is exactly what I am looking for!

For the best affects of the Sun Salutation:

1. Start making this series of poses a part of your routine at least on the day you plan on having sex.
2. Make sure to perform this series for each side (the right and the left side) of your body.
3. The best time to do this is in the morning (but I think anytime is better than no time).

Let's see how this works.

Sun Salutation

YummyGirl '10

Battle Of The Sex Toys-1 Strengthen The PC

For better sex, women need to Strengthen The PC, and I don't mean the Politically Correct, muscle.   I mean the PuboCoccygeal muscle.

The best way to strengthen this muscle, which makes the vagina tighter, is by doing kegel exercises.  Men love it when a woman's vagina is tight.  Learning how to control and maintain this muscle gives a woman better leverage for quicker orgasms and for pleasing a man more effectively.

There are many different tool/toys that are used to help exercise the PC muscle, but of all of them, here are two that I really like. The Kegel Master and Ben Wa Balls.
Both exercise the PC muscle but one is better than the other depending on the level of strength desired and convenience of use.

The Kegel Master

   Can be found on the website by its namesake, www.kegelmaster.com and is a little expensive but it is very focused and the results are dramatic.  You actually feel it working.  This device allows for multiple levels of strenght conditioning of the PC muscle in a womans vagina.  This is good because ultimately when you have sex, to a man, it can feel like fingers intimately massaging his Pness.  The Kegel master is also very easy to use.  The down side is that for the most part, you cannot perform any other activities (because you are laying on your back) when doing the exercises. 

Ben-Wa Balls

 Can easily be found almost anywhere and are very affordable.  You can insert the balls and walk around and do other things while you exercise the PC muscle.  You can even use just one Ben Wa Ball while having sex.  During sex it helps to maintain a womans natural lubrication while massaging both her and her partners private parts. The down side is that it may slip out while performing normal activites, if your PC muscle is very weak.  Another downside to the Ben Wa Balls is that they do not strengthen the PC as greatly and dramatically as other tools. But then again how tight a grip do you need to have?

Which would you prefer?

-The YummyGirl '10

SuperSexySexNMusic

'Tis the season for lots of lovin.  'Mood Music' will definately be needed this time of year. I think I'm going to put together a sexy playlist to add to the flavor of my holiday season.  I'll call my playlist SuperSexySexNMusic.  I think I'll share it too.  The playlist will be full of songs, like this, that are sure to put almost anyone in the mood. It's gauranteed to be grown and sexy. I'll even post it before the season is out. But for now, here is a new video I am totally feeling.  This video to Raheem DeVaughn's new song entitled- Single, is so SEXY! It embodies what this YummyGirl is all about when it comes to sex. (Makes me want to get a man so that I can say I'm single. lol) Enjoy!

The YummyGirl '10

Taking good care of the P-Ness

Wow! Where was this when I first started learning about loving of the P-ness? This was too good not to share! I don't think I need to say much with this. Hopefully it will be put to good use.

-The YummyGirl '10

Better Sex In The Co-Op

In a city full of co-ops and apartments and other forms of stacked housing, I knew this problem was inevitable.  It was fun while it lasted. I have been lucky for many years up until now. Well like they say, all good things must come to an end right? Not if I can help it.

I've lived in beautiful co-op in gotham. The street is treelined and the co-op building is very clean and quiet. The mortgage is ridiculously low for 1125 square feet and the co-op fee includes everything.  I’ve been there since 2006. I completely love my living situation. 

Recently the co-op board has been accepting applications from younger people like myself.  What sucks is that two of these ‘younger’ co-op owners have become my neighbors.  One above me and one right beside me.  


Now herein lies the problem.  I officially have a case of the 'Noisey Neighbors'. The one beside me, I have already talked to about his noise and that situation seems to be rectified. BUT the worst noise comes from the neighbor above me.  He is loud in general, but he is VERY, VERY loud when he is having sex with the women that he invites over late at night.

I wake up in the middle of the night hearing everything in his master bedroom, which is right above mine. I hear everything from the bed doing the sex dance and the mood music to the grunts, moans, sighs and screams.  Now I am as freaky as the next, but I hate that I am unwillingly awakened by his sexual audio shows. I need to talk to him-eventually. Because I don't want to move. Yes, it is that bad.

I figure that he must not know that there are other sexual positions besides missionary or doggie style out there that are just as effective and wont have the bed doing the sex shimmy shake, or anything else.  I know that I am not the only one that has had this problem. Or, has been this problem. So I am looking out for people on both sides of the problem.  Here are '5- (quieter) sex moves' and '3-must have items' for more private and better sex in the co-op.

5-(quieter) sex moves:

Remember most women prefer deeper and slower instead of faster and harder.

1- Have her, stand on a bed or chair facing away from you and have her lean on your chest with her back.  Use his hands to support her by either holding her at her hips or the under side of her butt. She must use her knees as a spring when you enter her, to enhace motion.

2-Have him sit on the floor, indian style, with his hands on the floor behind him.  Climb in his lap and straddle him while kneeling.  Use his chest and shoulders as your support and ride him.

3-Lie on your stomach, legs straightened but slightly spread. Have him lay on top of you completely with his legs outside of yours.  Close your legs and cross your ankles when he enters you.

4-Lie on your back.  Have him lay on top of you letting his body lay completely on you with his arms on both sides of your shoulders.  Instead of the in and out motion, this position requires a rocking up and down motion from both partners.

5-The good old fashioned '69'.

3-Must have items:

1. The Liberator - It allow for sex to be had almost anywhere and in almost any position and it is padded so if you insist on having hard wood floors it can be done with this piece of furniture.

2. Scratch floor guards for you furniture. Buy a pack from bed bath and beyond or any retail store and put them on the bottom of the legs on your bed, tables and sofa. That way if you want to have sex on other pieces of furniture in your apartment, and you don't have carpeting, the rumbling on the floor will be muted somewhat.

3. Carpeting on everything except closets, kitchen and bathroom.

Hopefully someone will pass the link to this blog on to my neighbor so that I don’t have to have the conversation with him.

If you have any other quieter sex positions or suggestions that work leave me a comment.

Thanks!
MsYummyGirl